Coping with Grief: Support from Relatives and Friends

If you are following my blogs and FB pages you know that my wife of 63 years just joined her Creator recently. So am I coping with grief? I hope so. There are times when I just felt numb and kept staring in space. But I realize I still have goals and have lots of friends and relatives who are supporting my grief. I am still in the E and A stages in the TEAR Model below, but hopefully will be in the R soon. The short and long term goals I have will kept my heart burning with fire and fighting spirit. 

Here are my Short  and Long term goals:

Travel to the Philippines and Enjoy Chateau Du Mer Once More( Bring Macrine Ashes)

See DJT out of the White House this coming November! Biden and Harris Elected

SEE Carenna Complete her Bacaulaurete Program at UWC in Maastricht,  Netherlands  and Complete College in the next 5 years

Maybe enjoy  the  presence of a great grandchildren in the near future.

How to deal with the grieving process

While grieving a loss is an inevitable part of life, there are ways to help cope with the pain, come to terms with your grief, and eventually, find a way to pick up the pieces and move on with your life.

1.Acknowledge your pain.
2.Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions.
3.Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you.
4.Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you.
5.Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.
6.Recognize the difference between grief and depression.

Source:https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/coping-with-grief-and-loss.htm

I am following the 12 suggestions as discussed in the above video. I am also enrolled in the Hospice Grief Counseling Program one hour per week for 12 months. I started my first session the other day. It was terrific and helpful.   I am also reading a couple of books on grieve management.

Most of ALL, a few of my close relatives are supporting me in my grieving process. The last couple of days, my sister-in-law and husband donated 3-days and 2 nights stay in their beautiful beach house in Stinson Beach, California. Ditas and Carenna drove me going there and Dodie drove me back here in Fair Oaks, Stinson Beach was amazing with its popular white sand beaches and gorgeous sunsets. See the following photos: The middle picture is Carenna's sand drawing in honor of her Lola.

 

 

Dodie, Carenna and I enjoying Dinner at the Beach House Backyard Patio 

Meanwhile enjoy this video on Chateau Du Mer- Macrine's and My accomplishments of an ideal retirement property in the Philippines